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Message: [QUOTE="rnabokov, post: 3167572, member: 1847"] You couldn't be more wrong. At the time I posted what I did, and until you alerted me to the fact Boyd grew up without a father, I did not know that. And that is the truth. I do not lie, not here, not anywhere, but I do make mistakes, everywhere, but here, I don't think I have, in using the term de facto as I have. Again, correct me if I am wrong. I did have a father. An abusive, emotionally absent father who nearly ruined my life and that of my mum. By his behaviour, he was in fact, a de facto arsehole. I used the term "de facto" in its plain English sense. In Latin [B][I]de facto [/I][/B]means [I]according to fact[/I], and this is roughly what it means in English. It’s defined as [I]in reality or fact[/I], but its de facto definition is closer to [I]serving a function or filling a role without being officially assigned to that function or role[/I]. For example, a de facto leader of a group is someone who has not been officially designated leader yet functions in that role. [I]De facto [/I]is sometimes contrasted with [I]de jure[/I], which means [I]according to law [/I]or [I]officially[/I]. In the same way that English is [B]de facto[/B] the common language of much of the world today. So, following this logic, in your case, you are [B]not[/B] a de facto leader of this Forum, you are [I]de jure[/I] a Forum leader, according to the law, the laws of this Forum by which we must abide, and according to which, your role is to enforce those "laws" or rules. I used the term de facto dad in my post simply to describe the closeness of Boyd's relationship to Bennett. Whether you, or anyone, chooses to interpret that Bennett acted literally as Boyd's de facto father in a family law sense is your choice, but it was not mine. As for why I used that term, I explained that in my post. It was meant to describe their close relationship, the closeness of which I sought to highlight as explaining my take on why Boyd behaved as he did during and following Bennett's sacking, and the consequences of having a close personal relationship with his coach, his boss, and what I believe to be problematic to a proper professional relationship between player and coach. I have nothing further to add to this so if you do not accept my reasoning, then we must agree to disagree. [/QUOTE]

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